Uncategorized When Should We STOP Believing in Santa?? December 25, 2011

Because today is Christmas, I began to think back on my year
and particularly Kelsey and her belief in Santa. I admit, I do not add to the
belief either way, because I just feel that when she is ready she will believe
or not, in her own time. Do not get me wrong, she has asked how things are paid
for, etc. I give her the truth… Mommy & Daddy pay for the items that “Santa”
delivers.  My question is at what age,
should the WHOLE truth be told? The innocence of a 9 year old is really
something else, because they understand the differences between the truth and just
imaginary. I cannot figure out if she “believes” because she wants gifts, or if
her belief is really genuine. I personally think that it is a combination of
both.

However, when I see the letter that Kelsey wrote to “Santa”,
it broke my heart. Is her belief so strong that she truly feels that when she
becomes a teenager, she won’t get anything? Have we, as a society, made our
kids feel this way, without realizing it? Is it just better to tell the truth
from the beginning? If I knew the answer, I would be rich LOL JTake a look at the
letter and “Santa’s” response (I think “Santa” was thrown off, a bit):
I think that I remember stopping the belief about (or
before) age 10. Christmas was always good as we grew up. I just remember the
sea of toys everywhere, and thought, that my sisters, and brother must have
been good that yearJ.
Of course, in my adult reality, there were 4 of us and it just “looked” like a
sea of toys. Either way, it’s all goodJ. 
To be honest, I am not much of a Christmas person, and if it
were not for my children, we would probably not celebrate at all. There is one
memory I have spending Christmas with Anthony and Kelsey (pre-Dudie), when we
went to Disney World (on Christmas day). That day started off well, however, it
quickly turns wet. Yes, I said wet. It actually rained. Not just rain, but a continuous
stream of hard rain for about 5 hours straight. I had never seen anything like
that. I think that has something to do with why we have not gone back for “that
day”. Don’t get me wrong, I would go again, if the opportunity presents
itself.  As an adult, that is one of my
better Christmas memories.
I guess the answer to the question is up in the air for now;
however, I am sure that in the coming year, we will find a way to convey the information to her. Then the issues will be how long the truth should be held from Dudie,
and to make sure that Kelsey does not spill the beans before he is ready.
Something to think about J.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday!!

8 Comments

  • momto8 posted on December 26, 2011 at 1:18 am

    My kids believed in Santa forever! it was their friends who even gave them the idea that Santa wasn't real.. and they were all dissapointed for sure.

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  • Raquel Cummings posted on December 27, 2011 at 8:13 pm

    I agree, that kids can be the ones to ruin the joy! It is good to know that my daughter is not the only kid her age still believing (for now) 🙂

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  • Marina {Yummy Mummy) posted on December 27, 2011 at 8:34 pm

    Merry Christmas to you too! I'm a new follower via bloggy moms and would love if you followed me back at http://www.yummymummykitchen.com 🙂

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  • Raquel Cummings posted on December 27, 2011 at 10:01 pm

    Welcome Marina 🙂

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  • Luva posted on December 29, 2011 at 6:59 pm

    Hi Raquel,
    Again thanks for following Zero Fuss. I'm following back your 2 blogs.
    This is an interesting post. Like you, I'm not a christmas person (anymore). I used to enjoy the family gatherings, but ever since I got married and moved a continent apart from my family of origin, I completely lost interest in the whole thing. as you said, I won't celebrate it all if it's not for my daughter. But she is only 3yo now and doesn't understand much about festivities so all I did during the last 3 seasons was adding a decorated tree to my home decor, just for the pictures.

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  • Raquel Cummings posted on December 29, 2011 at 8:45 pm

    Luva, you understand my pain in this LOL :o)

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  • A little crunchy - Kimberly posted on December 30, 2011 at 2:05 am

    Thanks for the follow, happy to follow back and happy to see this post as well. It is a topic that I have thought about often as well. My oldest is only 12 and she let me know she figured it all out at 11 and wanted my confirmation. She was a bit upset about the "lie" but I explained that is it a cultural modern fairy tale that parents carry on in the spirit of love and giving and to help show children they are rewarded for certain behavior and that we should assume someone is always watching. She got over her issues with the lie and became a helper, picking gifts for her younger siblings, helping to wrap gifts, and to help keep the magic alive for the littles. It works. I think we will keep with things like this for our younger children as it seems to have gone smoothly. – littlecrunchy.com

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  • Mommy With Selective Memory posted on December 30, 2011 at 3:40 am

    I agree I hate lying to them!! Now following back!!

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